I brought in my new year with my 4-year-old niece screaming via FaceTime, “We made it! We made it!” She’s right – we made it to another year and another opportunity to make more unrealistic promises to ourselves. So to ensure that you don’t keep those resolutions, follow these 3 tips:
1. Don’t let go of the past. Did you make a choice that proved not to be the best decision? Were you hurt by someone that you thought cared? If so, wallow in the resentment and anger that you have. Beat yourself up daily about every wrong choice you made. Place your happiness on hold. Always remind yourself of what you could have done or should have done.
“Only by acceptance of the past will you alter its meaning.” – T.S. Elliott
2. Don’t tell anyone of your resolutions and goals. Don’t make a vision board. Don’t post on FaceBook or other social media your intentions. Don’t even write them down. Instead keep it to yourself so that no one can hold you accountable. By doing this, the goals are out of sight so you will eventually forget about them and you won’t have to beat yourself up for not accomplishing a darn thing!
“Whenever you want to achieve something, keep your eyes open, concentrate and make sure you know exactly what it is you want. No one can hit their target with their eyes closed.”
― Paulo Coelho, The Devil and Miss Prym
3. Set a goal that you know would require zero effort. Many people this time of the year set intentions that require a huge amount of effort, commitment, and determination. At the end of the day, the bragging rights are the same – you both achieved a goal, so why overdo it? Note, you may not be able to brag as long about your accomplishment or tell a great story about how you overcame all of the obstacles you faced. And if you have followed the previous tip, you may have forgotten what your goal was in the first place!
“A goal is not always meant to be reached, it often serves simply as something to aim at.”
― Bruce Lee
If you choose to do this whole resolution and goal setting stuff, check out this awesome blog written by my friend and fellow blogger, Rachel on how to actually keep your resolutions.
Regardless of what you decide, good luck and Happy New Year!